“I don’t want to go to court, but it looks like that’s my only option. I want to do what’s right and Biblical, but honestly, I don’t see any real options here at all.”
This is an all-to-common feeling among Christians involved in conflict. It is, in fact, one of the primary reasons we formed ControlAltDispute. We see it in situations like these:
Two Christians, same church, involved in a conflict with legal ramifications, being told they “have to go to court,” and/or their perception is that their church leadership can’t resolve it due to: bias, conflict of interest, politics, insufficient training in the area, or inability to address the legal factors involved.
Two Christians, different churches, involved in a conflict and neither wants to submit it to the other’s church leadership for fear of bias.
Multiple Christians, multiple interests involved, not enough money to pursue full-out litigation, but an underlying desire to resolve and be reconciled to one another.
Two Christians pursuing a divorce where both sides believe – perhaps because of children – that they must pursue peace, but feel that the court system breeds controversy instead.
Two Christians who work at a Christian ministry where the ministry does not have a procedure in place for resolving conflicts.
A really smart Christian who sees a controversy brewing and a lawsuit down the road, but wants to “head it off at the pass” before things are done that can’t be undone.
At ControlAltDispute, we strongly believe in and support the local churches and their leadership. Whenever possible, you should be talking to your pastor first and listening to your pastor’s advice on resolution. You may learn that your local church already has a wonderful procedure in place for dealing with your situation and this should always be your first choice.
Sometimes, however, for a variety of reasons, you may be better served by someone not directly connected with your church – and your Pastor may be the first one to tell you that! In fact, Pastoral referrals are quite common. In these situations, we can help you navigate through your conflict, with everyone’s goals and perceived needs in mind.